The way to become a millionaire

An engineer comes to a coach who is known for his ability to create miracles.

Coach: “What do you want, my friend?”

Engineer: “I want to get promoted.”

The coach takes the engineer to the swimming pool nearby. With his incredible strength, he dunks the engineer under the water for 30s. When he lets the engineer up for air, the coach asks him to repeat what he wants: “I want to get promoted.”

The coach dunks the engineer under the water again, only this time a bit longer. After repeatedly dunking the engineer under the water and asking him to repeat what he wants, the coach asks in a calm voice: “What do you want?”

Engineer: “I want air.”

“Good. When you want to get promoted as much as you want air, you will have it”

If you want anything as much as you want air, you will have it.

If you want to become a millionaire, even a billionaire, as much as you want air, you will have it.

This is how life works.


Only genius can… if you want to, you can

An engineer comes to a coach with a burning quest: “coach, I really want to get promoted but I don’t know how. I have been working in the same position for too long.”

The coach: “How strong is your want-to?”

Engineer: “Very strong, coach. I have seen my colleagues getting promoted and I have done much more than they did.”

The coach: “What’s stopping you?”

Engineer: “I can’t think of anything. Other people got promoted so I don’t think anyone could stop me. Hmm… it might be me who’s stopping myself.”

The coach: “Tell me more.”

Engineer: “[thinking deep]…I do what my boss tells me to do. Sometimes I wanted to go extra miles but there’s always been something got in my way and I allowed it to take me away from going extra miles.”

The coach: “That’s a great insight. What’s next?”

Engineer: “I realize now that my want-to is not strong enough. If my want-to is strong, I would not allow myself to be distracted from my goal. I do know how to get promoted as I have seen how others got promoted. I will work on my want-to.”

The engineer works together with the coach on his want-to and his goal. A few months later, the engineer gets promoted for the outstanding job he’s done. With his insight on want-to vs. how-to, he gets himself different positions, each one is better than the previous one.

If you really want to, you will know how to.

#thesamuraicoach, #lifeisgood#letsgethonest, #letsbehonest

Why your employee behaves like an asshole? and you don’t know

First of all, you won’t like the answer. So if it pissed you off, stop reading. Go cry instead. If you have the gut to read, let’s continue.

The short answer is because you allow it.

Here’s the long answer.

First let’s give this employee a name: Messi.

Messi is very good with what he does. In some way, Messi is brilliant. Otherwise, you probably don’t care about him in the first place. Or you might have fired him when people complained to you that Messi is an asshole.

Messi only has one tiny problem: he doesn’t work well with people.

He behaves like a child. He screams, yells, uses manipulative words to get what he wants from others.

When his screaming, yelling, kicking doesn’t work, he uses his boss to get what he wants.

A typical way of using the boss is “my boss said so, so let’s do it or he will be mad.”

Surprisingly, this tactics of using the boss works. Messi got what he wanted all the time. Why? because no one ever went to Messi’s boss to ask for clarification.

And if anyone does, Messi’s boss would confirm whatever Messi said earlier and tell the brave person to do what Messi said. The behavior is reinforced time after time and people learned to listen to Messi.

To the boss, Messi is the most beloved and charming employee. In fact, the boss does everything to keep Messi happy.

If anyone ever mentions something different about Messi, the boss would shrug his shoulder off and told the poor guy that Messi deserves the love.

Messi would continue his tactics of screaming, yelling, manipulating, and using the boss when he can’t succeed with his own manipulation.

The word to describe Messi is the bully at work.

And when the bully gets what he wants, he will keep going.

You will only know about this type of behaviors when Messi starts to disappoint you.

Or when you start hearing complaints after complaints about Messi.

Or when you start finding out why things don’t work.

You might wonder how you can help Messi before it’s too late.

Yes, that’s a smart thought. If you let Messi continue, it’s not only harmful to Messi (he also needs to grow up), but also in the long run it doesn’t help you. People will stay away from you.

So how can you help Messi? how can you help yourself?

The following describes a simple method that you can start using. More complex and powerful methods are available upon requests.

  1. Gather 360 feedbacks about Messi. Ask people to give candid feedbacks.
  2. Observe Messi and become aware yourself with how Messi behaves toward others
  3. Meet with Messi and have a candid conversation with him. Messi will listen to you as usual.
  4. Give Messi feedbacks
  5. Come up with a plan of actions with Messi to change his behavior
  6. Work on yourself and become aware why you allowed the type of Messi’s behavior in the first place.

Keep in mind that team work makes dream work. To succeed, you need a team.


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At the exact 9am on Tuesday, my client Michael called me for our coaching session. Michael mentioned in his pre-coaching form that he did not know what to do and how to proceed with his plan, which in fact was his life-long dream. He was essentially stuck. Ten minutes into the session, Michael was enlightened. Not only he got himself 10 different ways to proceed right away, but also he got a crystal clear picture of his plan. We did not stop there. We continued to work his mind through till he got all action items planned out with deadlines and accountability. We dealt with multiple obstacles that could arise when Michael put his plan into action. By the end of the session, Michael was the happiest person on the earth and 100% committed to execute his plan. In our next session, Michael cheerfully shared his accomplishment and was well on his way to have a big win.
What described above is essentially what coaching is about. When I talked about coaching to people, most did not know the difference between coaching and mentoring. They thought that a coach is an expert in the area that the client wants to get help with. They basically thought coaching is the same as mentoring. However, coaching is very different from mentoring. I did not know Michael’s business at all. By the end of our session, Michael figured out his plan of actions. In some way, coaching is a real art to bring out the best in the client and get the client to do what he/she is capable of doing. In other words, I as the coach helped Michael tap into his 90% normally unused potential.
Steve Chandler, my future teacher and the author of more than 35 books, recorded an outstanding piece on why someone would hire a coach (now, no one needs a coach. Successful people know that they want a coach to help them succeed). Steve benefited tremendously from his coach. Even though Steve is the world-class coach and known as the godfather of coaching, he continues to hire his coach. You can listen to his recording at  Steve Chandler on why someone should hire a coach

Everyone needs a coach. It doesn’t matter whether you’re a basketball player, a tennis player, a gymnast or a bridge player. – Bill Gates

I believe without a coach, people will never reach their maximum capabilities. – Home Depot’s CEO Bob Nardelli
The best advice I ever got is to have a coach. Everyone needs a coach. – Google’s ex-CEO and Chairman Eric Schmidt

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About the author: Hoan Do is a certified leadership coach. Hoan have led multiple teams at Symantec Inc. across the globe delivering world-class solutions to protect consumers and businesses. Hoan is an expert in building highly performing teams. He believes that the best leader is the leader that could grow his followers to be leaders. Hoan has been organizing mastermind groups to share with other leaders about transformational leadership and coaching. He has trained many leaders via mastermind groups, workshops, and one-on-one coaching.

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